Explore with You

I dated someone named Garrett who grasped the concept, early in life, there will always be someone better looking. That was surprisingly mature to me, early in life. And it is so true. We have an inner wisdom that is accessible to us. We have a light within us, if we choose to follow. What is life about? What is dating about? The questions could be answered on many different levels. I am not here to teach you, but to explore with you. I have some questions and some answers, hardly different from the average person … though average is not ever a quality a person should ascribe to or ever be labeled as, for people are so not average.

It is Monday morning, I am sitting on my bed. I want to talk about a lot of things and have wanted to since beginning this blog about six months ago. Thank you for the nearly 1200 views to this blog, I appreciate it and it has been an encouragement, at times, that has brought me back to this format. I feel listened to. I am meeting people who care about similar things to me. Like attracts like, as it should. Years ago, I was told opposites attract. That was pretty common to hear. Paula Abdul sang about it so it was right, right? I didn’t challenge it. I thought it was the way things were supposed to be… the natural order.

What I see more at midlife is like attracting like. I’m still studying this, so I don’t have an abundance to say. But imagine a life where like attracts like and the pleasure that is derived of being in like company. Think through the thought of not compromising so much of what you want in life because the people you are with want much of the like things and the like ways you do. Wow – that takes some big stuff off the table, let’s you rest into greater compatibility. Sure, it opens up the way for other problems. There are always parts of life that present themselves as problems. But they are not. They are opportunities for growth. When like attracts like, there is greater compatibility and greater compatibility prepares the way for time to be used as a method of spiritual growth.

Accept the challenges that come your way. I recently read a quote by William Gaines, “Most of my major disappointments have turned out to be blessings in disguise. So whenever anything bad does happen to me, I kind of sit back and feel, well, if I give this enough time, it will turn out that this was good so I shouldn’t worry about it too much.” I found this on the Live Laugh Love page on Facebook. A wonderful place to find higher thoughts and inspiration.

Anyway, I have wandering thoughts about like attracting like, the potential for spiritual growth in the “problems” that come our way once life is in balance and framed within a structure of compatibility. Going back to the beginning that there will always be a better looking person. We are all unique, all wonderful, not to be compared. If you are in a relationship based on visual attraction, it will fail. Something will ultimately happen to that person that will make the next beautiful person that pursues you more attractive. I believe in physical attraction and the value of it in relationship. But I believe, for the most part, what we are truly looking for is the light within both the other person and within ourselves. When we find that, the distraction of physical beauty all around us falls aside. We are spiritual beings. Seek spiritual beauty, seek like and beauty follows.

May you find enchantment in your life, today and every day.

c.s.