Choice, consciousness, finding light in the natural. Asking, what is the most natural thing. Handwriting is natural, writing with a keyboard is not. I have become accustomed to it. Until the last few years, I have written with pen and paper. Ask yourself what the most natural thing is .. allow it to be part of your decision making. What I am really here to talk about, today, is the natural inclination to make assumptions. I have been reading a book by Don Miguel Ruiz: The Four Agreements. I have read most of it a second time in preparation for writing about it here. The author says, “We have a tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth.” We live in unnecessary drama and sadness for making assumptions.
We make assumptions to fill in the gaps of our knowledge. It helps us string together our thoughts and experiences, or does it? From this book I am reading, I can see that making assumptions and filling the gaps to stories creates falseness that causes us to live in unreality. Living in unreality generally causes trouble, unless you are one to make the unreality a more positive place. That takes a very positive person and, even then, living in an altered state of reality is problematic if only in the long run.
“We have millions of questions that need answers because there are so many things that the reasoning mind cannot explain. It is not important if the answer is correct; just the answer itself makes us feel safe. This is why we make assumptions,” Ruiz states.
I have no examples of making assumptions of my own, though surely I have contributed my fair share to this world problem. My days of creativity are, for this time, falling way to real estate though I am creative there in a different way. I am enjoying my newfound business and am enjoying meeting so many people and helping to care for the details of their home transitions.
I think the biggest problems with assumptions are when we assume the worst, assume the worst of a situation or a person. Sometimes there is reality in that, but sometimes there becomes a lack of trust in the happenings of our lives. We can spare ourselves much heartache by not making assumptions, by asking questions instead. Then, we can base our thoughts and feelings on reality. Reality is often softer than imagination. All kinds of things are possible in our minds. The truth is stranger than fiction? Perhaps. But runaway assumptions are a cruelty that we hold power to stop.
Join me. Stand strong and claim reality.